Being a parent is like working without an experience and learning through your exploration. It requires patience, strength, awareness and constant efforts. It’s an endless juggle of emotions, balancing responsibilities as well as maintaining a steady pace in your daily activities. Above all this… is the ability to uphold a calm composure through all times, be it a disaster or an excitement. Say your child broke the new vase you bought yesterday, and that cost a fortune, you want to burst out loud but you try to calm yourself. Your child can see you annoyed, that you are trying your level best to force a smile and curb that anger. We have all been there, sometimes we poured out those feelings on our kids or spouse and there are times where we just want to let go of everything and go somewhere far.
I recall my mother’s words as I am typing this, there were days when she would get frustrated and say over the phone,’ I wish I could leave everything and go to an island faraway.” I didn’t comprehend what she really meant, until today, she needed space and time to rejuvenate from that constant cycle. It is essential to give yourself that space, not just for a parent but for anyone who is in a constant cycle or a routine because sometimes, you just need to break fee from it… Every parent goes through resentment, clogging of so many emotions and each of us express them differently.
Children growing up, have their own set of emotions and are relentlessly struggling to keep up in the cycle of life, which is why it is significant to bring physiological and emotional balance in their early years, so that they are able to experience their intelligence, capabilities and brilliance in unique ways. Because, if this does not happen, you will notice kids with enough competence giving up on themselves, and their talents go unexplored for the fear of suffering. To explore their skills and to take up challenges children need to find joyfulness in what they are doing, as long as they are happy with what they do, they will willingly exert to explore more of themselves.
The practice of meditation aids parents and children to develop physiologically and psychologically, by bringing a level of emotional balance which is very significant. How can this be done?
Let me share with you 4 means you and your family can practice, to retain balance, for living a blissful day every day.
- Practicing Mindfulness
Make this as a part of your family routine to keep aside time for doing some activity that helps focus on your breath. It can be meditation, yoga or any exercise that grows attention to your breath. The point here is to get in touch with your inner being. Personally, I would suggest doing yoga exercises like Nadi Shuddhi and Shambhavi Mudra. These exercises help you to retain calmness of your mind and rejuvenates your emotional and mental well being. You can also explore some wellness applications, that have guided meditation programs, I would personally suggest ‘Sadhguru’ and ‘Calm’., you also have Headspace and many more.
2. Practicing Gratefulness
I had done a post on “10 ways to Gratitude,” for children where I had talked about making gratitude a part of your daily lives. Make it a part of your family’s routine to get up and thank the Creator for such a beautiful day, a small prayer of appreciation, during meals and ending your day being thankful by listing the positive events that happened throughout the day. Trust me, when I say this…you will start to see value in things you have ignored and everything around seems much better.
3. Practicing Consciousness
This is a step to become more mindful in your thoughts, start by finding a clam and suitable place to relax, you can either sit legs crossed or on a chair with your hands on your thighs, palms open facing upwards, close your eyes, focus on your thoughts, and let them flow, just like the clouds in the sky, let them pass and just watch as your thoughts flow, not judging them or reacting to them and be conscious of the slightest of sounds around you, be aware of your breath. Practicing this art of mindfulness, makes you aware of the surroundings and gives good control over your thoughts. This helps to reduce your stress and anxiety and helps to deal them better.
4. Stay in touch with nature
Close your eyes and let the rays of the morning sun bath you with positive energy, feel the breeze caress your face, dissolve into the reverberations of nature, and feel at ease. I know it can get pretty difficult to do this when living in a city, but getting in touch with nature is extremely vital especially for children and adults living in metropolitan cities so you can start by keeping plants at home, also plan a wellness retreat with your family on a weekend.
Try bringing in greenery indoors, for example, having small house plants or bonsai, my mother-in-law keeps money plants in the bathrooms and at certain parts of the house, it adds to the interiors and also generates positive vibes to the place.
Make these four steps a part of your family routine and you will be surprised to find results of emotional and mental well being within yourself and your kids.
People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don’t even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, and the black, curious eyes of a child—our own two eyes. All is a miracle.”– Thich Nhat Hanh, The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation
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