Parenting & Education

How can parents build a fruitful relation with the teacher?



Helen Keller

I remember vividly, it was first grade, and my memories of my teacher, is something I carry even today.  I was seated in the fourth or fifth bench, and my notes used to be either half written or not written at all. Yup! There were complaints from my mom and my teacher figured out the problem. She suggested to get my eye tested. Voila! I was gifted with a pair of glasses, which I wear even today.

I was the kind of child, whose performance depended on the teacher. If my teacher was strict, I did not do so well in that subject (actually, I disliked that subject). And if my teacher, was kind, patient and caring, I used to do my best and love those subjects.And let me tell you, there are children who have these preferences…but once his/her teacher has identified that, the rapport improves.

It is very significant for a parent and teacher to work together, to improve the child’s performance in his personality and his growth in academics. As parents, we need to stop over reacting and look into certain factors that can improve your relationship with your child’s educator.

Build trust in your child’s teacher

Let’s be honest, as a parent, we know what is best for our children. When the child starts school, you have entrusted your child in the hands of his teacher, so maintain that trust. Its normal to worry yet, we need to understand, your child’s educator is well experienced and when the teacher comes to you with certain comments and advice regarding your child, understand that certain behavior might be new for you and you would be surprised, to say, “but my child does not do that at home.”  There are behavioral patterns that do not surface at home but in school, this happens because the atmosphere and the exposure the child receives in school is different. So, other than convincing and being protective, trust your child’s educator and collaborate together, to figure out the cause and solution to understand or correct the behavior.

Teaching is a two way street

Speaking through personal experience as a teacher, I have met parents who do not aid their child in their studies, this can be observed in the child’s home assignments which are mostly incomplete or not done at all, they are not ready for a simple class test and their interaction with the class teacher is not very progressive, which hinders the child’s academic growth. Then comes the question;”Why is my child not performing well?

As parents, it’s vital to understand that the child’s performance depend on the guidance of parents as well as their teachers. Both need to work together to enhance the child’s growth, which means what is learnt in school has to be further developed at home.

Stop condemning your child’s teacher for your slip-ups

If you are a working parent or a home maker, it doesn’t matter how busy you are, always have an eye on what is done in school. Have a chat with your little one, daily check his/her information dairy for assignments and important notices, so that you are well updated with the affairs in school and also to avoid unnecessary slip-ups. If you think that, your child does not convey or unsure of the information, you can always cross check with the class teacher.

Show up for your child’s Parent Teacher Meet (PTM)

It would be great if both parents could show up, but I know that it gets difficult at time, it is very important that the parent makes it on that day. As this is a day, where you can thoroughly discuss about your child’s academic performance and growth. Keep aside your personal matters and do not make that as an excuse to shield your mistakes. Be honest and remember as a parent, it’s important to be responsible and sensible when handling comments.

Let’s be honest here; “there are certain aspects of a child a teacher sees which a parent cannot. Teachers are here to help”

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