Oh mama, oh la, oh la, oh la
Don’t know what this is
What do I do now, do now, do now?
Do with all of this?
All of these new emotions
I let them out in the open
Oh mama, oh la, oh la, oh la
Oh, what do I do now?
-Clean Bandit (Mama)
This song has given me an ear worm these days. I keep humming the tune or singing it wherever I go, of course it’s one of my liked tracks from my favorite band (Clean Bandit) and also an inspiration for my post today. You guys must be wondering, why on earth am I talking music on a blog for parents and kids, don’t worry, it’s not off topic. It’s very much related. They released their music video for the song “Mama” two weeks back, and their video caught me by surprise, it’s all about how an unfortunate childhood is making an unhappy president. Honestly, I wasn’t looking at the video in a parody format, but in a more generalized perspective on the subject. The theme of this video is what the title of this post is “Damaging Our Children Can Damage The Entire World. You can enjoy the music by clicking on this link https://youtu.be/Ao3XJ-UDdzI
The song shows the protagonist (a young boy), running towards his father with joy when he trips and falls, hurting his knee and you can see the father turns a blind eye to his injuries. Thereafter, you can see the boy hesitating to jump in the pool, when his father in rage vehemently pushes him in the swimming pool, so that his son masters his swimming skills. You can also see the young boy’s face filled with confusion and anger. In his school, he is punished by his teacher and gets teased by his classmates, so the boy is filled with embarrassment and sadness. His teen years, is shown training in the camp and he witnesses one of his mates being bullied yet refuses to help him, as a sign of validation for his behavior to support the mass majority and win favouribility. Finally the last scenes show him as an adult and a President of the Nation, where he is finally getting pushed out from his comforts and the protagonist is seen, helpless, and recollecting his childhood experiences, that led to his fall. The song concludes with the president and the wife dancing.
So, that’s the gist of it. Over controlling, being excessively possessive, having high expectations, using emotional manipulations or any other manipulation techniques have adverse negative effects on a child, building up their uncertainties, anxiety issues and rage. Gradually, affecting their adulthood.
“Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”
Jonathan Anthony Burkett, Neglected But Undefeated: The Life Of A Boy Who Never Knew A Mother’s Love
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