Your first time being a parent? Welcome to a fun world of happiness and sleepless nights. Your child is in the process of growing, and you will find so many growth spurts and behavioral patterns that are not so easy to handle. Your child maybe fussy at eating, very stubborn to have something he/she likes, attention seeking, etc. Well, the child here is not at fault. They are growing rapidly in their emotions, physical, mental and social abilities, and learning as they grow. As parents we need to correct their behavior in their developing years. So, how do we do it?
Patience is key: The more you are patient the easier you find solutions to deal with them. Your child is going to test your patience every single day at anytime, anywhere (be it your home or supermarket) and the last thing you want, is to give into unnecessary fury. How many times have we heard our parents say; “wait till you become a parent and let us see how you can handle it?” They are absolutely correct, it is quite a task, sometimes our emotions gets the better of us and we end up saying or doing irrelevant actions just to get our child to stop doing that particular behavior, later you find them repeating the same. Here is how you correct them:
Observe their behavior: Why is it that they are behaving in a certain manner? Every behavior has an underlying reason. If your child is 4 years and older by sternly telling them “NO” should get them to stop it, but as parents we need to keep an eye and repeat this. So every time you see them doing it, sternly say “NO.” Things are not always so easy. A child who is between 2-3 years of age, cannot communicate so well, so they tend to throw more tantrums, whine, cry etc. Handling this age sure is tricky .Example; A child loves to scream whenever he/she wants something. You see them enjoying it and likes to get attention. The child sure knows that by doing so you will give into what they want. Children are growing smarter day by day, if you think, you are the only one analyzing him/her, you are wrong.
Understanding their behavior: Once you understand the underlying motive it gets easier to solve the behavioral issue. To continue the above mentioned example, now that you know he/she is screaming because they want something, you find a solution on how to deal with it.
Take action: Now that you have understood the purpose, I am saying it again patience is key. First step show an expression of disapproval on your face and then (overlook), go ahead with what task you were doing. This might take 5-10 minutes but your child will eventually realize that you not responding, is not giving him/her what they want and they will eventually come to you. This is when you engage with your child in little things and take their help. Example; If the child is screaming in a grocery store, once you have dealt with their screaming, engage them by helping you out in picking up small groceries, and educating them about little things. This serves as a detraction and the child enjoys their time with you.
The best part about being parents is to let go of certain petty behaviors . Not all behavior patterns are permanent, and they gradually disappear in time. As parents we always need to continuously study our child’s behavior and come up with strategies that help in correcting their behavior and making them better adults. This takes time and patience, but you will get there.